Dating with Children

I just had the craziest reading experience of my life under “success stories� on a dating site to which I subscribe. Here it is, with names and locations deleted:

I just want to thank you for the opportunity for me to meet the most wonderful guy ever. We have currently been going out for three months. We are so in love with each other, although we have not currently met. We plan to in December (he is coming to *somewhere in the east* from *somewhere in the west*) for Christmas. Being able to bond and have a special connection is so important and makes a relationship easier. You really get to know someone before you meet them. Our bond is so strong and it will be hard to break. And when we meet it will become even stronger.

What? Huh? Why do I feel as if I’ve just stepped into a loony bin lined with funhouse mirrors? First of all, how does one “go out with� someone they’ve never met? Secondly, you are in love after three months of NOT dating?? Thirdly, What?? Huh??

Love is a matter of many things. Sure there is the intellectual and the spiritual, but dangit kids, there is also plain old homegrown lust! Chemistry! Physical attraction!!

Do you really think this woman will be so bonded and in love with this man if, when she meets him, she can’t stand the way his breath smells, he doesn’t regularly shower, he is a slob, he picks his nose, or any other many things that you can’t see over the phone?
I doubt it! I can only hope that she does not have kids that she’s brought into this! Can you imagine?? “Hey kids! We’re going to meet your future stepfather in December!!�

Agh!!

I got attached to a man once, and on our second meeting I went to his house. Do you know what I found? His four children, of whom he supposedly had custody, were nowhere to be seen! They were with their mom, permanently. So much for custody! Know what else I found? He lived in the basement of his parents’ home! I was staying with mom and dad! But seriously…The very worst part was the chemistry. Over the phone he had the smoothest voice I’d heard in ages. He talked the talk and spoke and speak and hubba hubba hubba. The problem hit me when we met in real life. His pictures were very flattering online. They also didn’t show the extra 50 or so pounds he was carrying around his middle. They also didn’t show that he clippered all the hair all over his entire body so that he was prickly as a porcupine and impossible to snuggle with! They also didn’t show that his breath reeked of something which shall remain nameless.

So my thoughts on getting attached before meeting? Um, no thank you. Not so much!!

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