Priorities!!
I was talking to the object of my lust tonight in a chatroom and accusing him (good-heartedly, of course) of blowing me off the last time I was in town. He said that he did NOT blow me off, but he had his kids (he has custody) and couldn’t find a sitter for them.
He said that his priorities are: 1) Kids and 2) Hot Chicks! (I guess I’m the “hot chick? of that particular conversation)
I so agree with that. I can’t stand it when I hear of kids being neglected, even a little bit, so the parents can go pursue endless dates and social activities. I might be a little bit on the protective side, but I just can’t seem to bring myself to get a sitter so I can go out and date. I wait until my ex has them and do my socializing then.
It does help, of course, that he does take them. I realize that not everyone has that luxury, and of course I’d get a sitter every other weekend or so to make time for dating or other grown-up playing. Happily, it’s not a choice I have to make!
Children of divorce tend to feel neglected and needy. It is our job as parents to help them to feel as wanted as possible. If I often put my priority on hot men, my children would feel second best, and that is just not something I can do to them. I parent, I work, and I parent some more. It’s a charmed life!
Who knew the object of my lust could have such insight. I might just have to talk to him again someday!
lust, divorce, neediness, parenting, dating, dating with children




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