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On My Mind

by JillM

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I’ve been pondering lately what I’m doing wrong in the dating field. Last night I asked my friend Mary just what in the heck is up with me. I tend to be very open about a lot of things and am willing to discuss in depth events from my childhood, my feelings about God, my parenting, my daughter on who passed in 2000, my mistakes and how I’ve gained wisdom and maturity (and maybe how I haven’t). I’m not afraid of deep discussions, in other words, and I tend to be very nice as well.

That’s just the way I am, and when I hold back, I feel like I’m being someone other than myself which feels dishonest. So my question to my friend was…Do I need to learn how to play the game better so men aren’t reading me wrong? Am I leading them on and making them think a relationship exists where one doesn’t by being so open? I get told so often how they’ve never been able to talk to anyone like this before, how accepting I am, etc. I’ve come to realize that in a LOT of circumstances, that’s just a line, but sometimes it isn’t, and they think that I’m “the one” after a few dates. Even when I tell them “Look, I like you, but I’m not going to commit and I’m dating others” they seem to blow that off as me being “scared” or something. I’m not really believed.

So is that the answer? Learning how to be a lot more reserved about my life and less friendly? Making myself unavailable for chitchat from time to time?

This has really been on my mind for quite some time. Thanks for any input!

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Posted in General on February 27th, 2007

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2 Responses to “On My Mind”

  1. Rachel Sarah Says:
    February 28th, 2007 at 12:28 am

    Jill, please explain to me what this means… ” my daughter on who passed in 2000l”…??

    I want to say: Good for you for NOT settling! It’s okay to date a few guys at once, and keep your boundaries. You go girl.

    xo,
    Rachel

  2. JillM Says:
    February 28th, 2007 at 12:38 am

    Hi Rachel…It was a typo, for one, but my fourth baby, a daughter, was stillborn at term in 2000. One of those major life events that touches you forever.

    :) Jill

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