No More Bah Humbug!
I had been on a rant earlier about my ex coming to birthdays and Christmas at my house, and then celebrating them at his house. I did not see the point in that because we are not friends and I found it odd that he needed to come here, eat my food and play the part of the family man when he is no longer a part of my family.
I wrote him a very kind email asking him why this was necessary, and he said that it wasn’t and that he had been wondering that himself. As the parenting plan specifies that I always have the kids on Christmas and birthdays and that he is always invited, we agreed to modify it stating that if the birthdays or Christmas happen to fall on his weekend then he can have them, and otherwise he will just make time to have a party with them on the weekend that he does have them.
Funny, but a little friendly communication goes a long way! I have been dreading Christmas this year (and every year since the divorce) and suddenly my Scrooge mentality has gone away. I’m looking forward to having my family over and enjoying this time with my children. The weekend after, my ex will have the Christmas with the kids and his new family. We’re all happy!
Communication is key. Enjoy your Holidays!
CHEERS!!
birthday, Christmas, holiday, divorce, Scrooge, communication
December 26th, 2006 at 2:48 pm
So… how open are we talking here??
You ARE saying I can’t shoot him, right?
How about calling the ex while in the tub? That’s fairly open wouldn’t you say??? (No, not me… but one I’ve heard recently.)
I know it’s not going to win me any points, but I say the less communication the better. I don’t have anything more to say to him then, “I’ll see you when you bring the kids home. G’bye.”
:::Rant over:::