Moving Kids Away
The problem with being a divorced parent with the other parent involved in the kids’ life is that, even if you think your ex is the Spawn of Satan, he/she is still the other parent of your children. That makes things like taking a job in another state difficult, to say the least.
To backtrack, I had to resign my job in BFE, Montana due to a principal who is also the Spawn of Satan. (I guess that makes she and my ex related?) I applied for job after job after job here and there, trying to stay within a few hours of Helena, Montana, where my ex lives.
I was asked to apply in a school district in Utah, but at first refused because it’s just too far from the kids’ dad. As I got turned down for job after job, I started getting discouraged and thought I’d better apply in Utah as a backup plan. After I applied, I had a couple of interviews and POOF had a job!
There was then the long and arduous process of getting a new parenting plan worked out with the kids’ dad. It isn’t exactly what I wanted, but it’s okay, and now we are in the process of packing up our little log cabin in the woods and making an offer on a house in Northern Utah!
If anyone has experience with moving kids away from the non-custodial parent and has advice to offer those of us considering this, or if you need advice on parenting plans from me, please let me know and I’ll go into further detail!
In the meantime, enjoy the summer and all of the dating opportunities it brings!
Cheers!
July 15th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
I’ve had a hard time with that one too! Trying to decided what is best for the kids is pretty tough as it is without having to bring another person into it.
I decided to stay put but I can understand your situation.
August 3rd, 2007 at 11:22 am
I was dating a guy, was planning to move out of state. Got pregnant and ended up staying. During the pregnancy, we split. After my child was born, I was offered a position out of state again and this time took advantage. My daughter and her father have a great relationship. She didn’t see him that often when we lived close so it is no difference to her to see him 3xs a yr when we go to visit. She talks to him weekly and we’ve established a good “co-parenting” reelationship. Nothing more. It’s hard, but I don’t bad mouth him and I’ve left it open to where he can come see her when he wants (this has not happened, yet). But alas, that IS her father. He knew I was planning to move before I met him so there was no huge fight about the issue.
Advice/suggestions- plan a schedule for visitations, promote communication w/ kids and other parent, as well as, keeping other parent in the loop of events w/ child.
So far it’s working for me. Good luck to everyone.
September 3rd, 2007 at 8:02 am
Hi, I’m glad I stumbled on your story. I am the custdial parent of 1 four year old girl. My ex who works part-time, under the table and is on partial disability (valid or not??) and I have a decent relationship. I have been dating a man who live about 1 3/4 hours away. We are looking to live together (getting married or not isn’t really an issue for us personally, but we do worry that it may adversely affect the kids if we don’t marry). He is the non-custodial parent of four kids-ages 5-13. He had a very, very bad split/divorce and 4 years later still has a turbulent relationship with his part-time working ex. We’ve not been able to come up with a game plan how to move to the next level. We feel that either moves from their current location, the kids will be impacted. His kids won’t be able to see him much during the week and my daughter won’t see her dad during the week. I am heartbroken at the though of no being able to further our