Is it selfish to want to date?
by JillM
I wanted to link you to this article, written by the talented Rachel Sarah, so I could get your feedback on it.
My parents certainly are against single parents dating, particularly my mom. As I’ve generally (though certainly not always) been dating one or more men at a time for the last three years, mother dearest has said some very hurtful things about my level of desperation and selfishness and about my lack of parenting skills. I realize that most of this attitude comes from listening to endless rounds of Dr. Laura, but hey! Maybe she has a point!
What do you all think?
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February 16th, 2007 at 11:23 am
I think parents should be extra cautious about who they bring into their childrens life, but I have to disagree with M.M. I love my children, but there are times when I need a recharge that I can’t get from the little ones. This is not sexual in nature it’s having a relationship with someone for whom you are not the caregiver and who provides the support and love that comes from being in a relationship. I think my kids benefit from this because I’m happier and more at ease and that carries over into my relationship with them. I’m not about flaunting this in front of my children, but they are resilent and will adapt to the new situation if it is presented in a reasonable way. I think too many people self-impose singleness upon themselves out of guilt, as a way to redeem themselves in the eyes of the children. While this may work for some people, it could prove to be detrimental to others. Just my opinion though
February 16th, 2007 at 11:56 am
I’m totally pickin’ up what you’re puttin’ down…But let’s not discount the sexual in nature as well!!!