Dating with Children
I was corresponding with my new friend Keith yesterday and he said something about how it will be difficult to find anyone to date while parenting because the kids always have to be the first priority.
I thought about writing this back just to Keith, but then realized it’s a good thing to share with all of you.
If dating really is important to you, DO IT! If you are sharing custody with an ex, it doesn’t even have to interrupt the time you spend with your children. Just date when they’re with the other parent. If you feel you have too many kids, remember that I probably have more (I gave birth to 5 kids in 6 years–4 of those kids are still living). If you feel you are too old, remember that I had been out of the dating loop since my early twenties and I am now 37. I’ve learned to be a fabulous date…Even without putting out! If you feel that the men or women you are seeking to date will object to you placing your priority on making sure your children are happy and well-adjusted and financially cared for, look at me! I work and parent nearly all the time. My kids ARE my life. However, when they’re with their dad, I DO date! I look at it as refilling my cup, as it were. If I don’t take that time once or twice a month to blow off some steam and have fun, what kind of a parent will I be? I don’t want my kids to see a bitter and crabby old woman as their mother!
I guess the main thing I got in talking to Keith is that he felt that women would take issue with him placing the needs of his children first. To Keith, and to all of you, I say that any woman (or man) worth a damn will NOT object to you being a great parent. To me, there is nothing more sexy than a good man who is a good dad!!
Now get out there and date!
dating, dating with children, parenting, mom-time, dad-time
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