Dating with Children

Here we are starting off a new week!

For those who are curious, the bimbo mention HERE did indeed come with the ex to the spelling bee. Why? Just to torture me, I guess.

But it’s all over! A new week has begun! I am searching out new jobs and as I’ve always had promising prospects in the past, I’ve decided that I’m going to use my powers to get the heck out of Dodge. I need to recapture some peace and sanity in my life.

The children are the first priority. Where would they be happy living? What is far enough away from the ex for me and not too far for them?

I’m considering Idaho. I’m not sure if I will like being out of the mountains and forest that far, but it’s worth considering. It’s out of the state, for one, but certain areas there are relatively close to Helena. Home prices haven’t inflated at the rate they have in my area, either, so I would be able to afford a decent home in which to raise my children.

As a single mother, but one who knows that it’s best for her children to have contact with their other parent, moving can’t be undertaken lightly. Keep in mind that no matter how much you need your space, your children probably need their father (or mother, if you’re an involved dad). Stay as close as you can while still being an effective parent yourself. That might mean a bit of distance, but your children need you to be sane as much as they need to be able to have contact with the noncustodial!

Tibet is sounding better all the time! However, time to put the kids first.

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My darling son, C, is 11 and in the 6th grade. He recently won our school’s 5th through 8th grade spelling bee. I mean first place, folks. The next step is for him, along with the 2nd and 3rd place kids, is to go to the county spelling bee, which of course is in Helena. Yeah…Where the stupid ex and the homewrecker live.

Unless I’m dropping off my children at their dad’s house (or rather the house the bimbo allows him to rent bed space in, according to him), I avoid Helena like a deadly plague. Honestly I am just a little bit too crazy to run into them at the grocery store or something without knocking one or both of them flat. Silly, huh?

Anyway, C of course told his dad about the spelling bee winning and that he was going to be in the county bee. And of course he wants his dad there. His dad said that he’d be there, but has decided that he can’t come without the homewrecker. Why is this? Even though his dad has never had a single thing to do with any of the kid’s education (I homeschooled, which he stayed clear of, and then once they started public school, I was the only one involved in what they were doing), I do ‘get’ that he needs to be there. He did, after all, donate the sperm to create this child. I’m sure that was realllllllllly hard on him.

What I don’t get is this: This woman is the reason my children don’t have their father. Well no…Their father is the reason they don’t have a father, but legally (because of aforementioned sperm donation) I have to let him in on this sort of thing. This woman, however, has no legal connection to my kids, is no relative of theirs, and doesn’t even care that much about them or she wouldn’t swear at them or tell them she’s going to throw away the toys that they like but she doesn’t when they’re at her house. She wouldn’t use my 11 year old as a built-in babysitter for her two small children and she’d give my kids a break from her presence so they could spend some time with their dad.

Also, as previously mentioned, these people make me seriously crazy. Can’t she stay home alone with her kids for an hour so the donor can make his token visit to the spelling bee and give me a little bit of sanity? Not for my sake, of course, but for the sake of my kids?

This is supposed to be my blog giving advice to the world, and I’ll resume that next time.

In the meantime, advice on how to get bimbo to stay home?? (And seriously, if you tell me “just get over it and think of your son�?, that’s NOT HELPING!!!)

Cheers!

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