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On iVillage there are some interesting videos of men’s responses to how they felt about sex on the first date. Be sure to check it out HERE!

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Today I’m home with my sick daughter Ivy. She is as sweet as the day is long, so it’s no trouble being home with her, however I’m on my last full sick day as we speak. I have to make it through the rest of the school year without any more kids getting sick. Luckily my parents are only an hour away in case of emergency, and my grandparents live right here in town so have been a help from time to time as well.

In pondering my possible move to Idaho, where I’m farther from family, will I regret that when I run out of sick time there? Four children is a lot of sick to go around. And of course they never all get sick at the same time.

With Idaho Falls being a much bigger city than I’ve lived in in many years, it’s possible that I will have more friends available to help out in case of emergency, but I’m not sure I’d leave my sick kids with someone other than family. Heck I don’t even like leaving them with their dad when they don’t feel well. (Mind you, I don’t think he’d NOT take them, I’m just a freak about my children)

Will I regret this move if I make it?

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The Open Toed Shoe Pledge

:

I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the sides and tops of my feet will not pudge out between the straps.

I won’t wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker, mother, sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.

If a strap breaks, I won’t duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.

I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl’s if my feet need him.

I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids’ sizes. This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.

I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell and begin to look like Vienna sausages.

I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend/sister/coworker when she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.

I will promise if I wear flip flops that I will ensure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.

I will promise to go to my local nail salon at least once per season and have a real pedicure (they are about $15 or 20 and worth EVERY penny).

I will promise to throw away any white/off-white sandals that show signs of wear… nothing is tackier than dirty white sandals.

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And that is all I have to say about that.

Okay, just kidding. Those who know me know that I don’t often stop with just one word, after all!

Today the source of my angst comes from Helena Boyfriend. I keep in touch with him regularly via email. We rarely, if ever, talk on the phone, we haven’t seen each other for months, but we do keep in touch and I consider him a friend. He’s always there to cheer me on (through writing, mind you, but it’s still nice).

So ack #1: I am not going to have a job where I currently teach next school year. It’s politics that I won’t bore you with, but suffice it to say that I’m on a major job hunt right now. I want to continue teaching because I’m good at it and I like being on a similar schedule with the kids.

The good thing is that I have an interview later this month in Idaho for a job I would *really* like to get. The homes are more affordable in that particular community than they are where I currently reside, and I wouldn’t mind being closer to some of my friends who live within 3 hours of there as well.

Which leads to ack #2: I told Helena boyfriend that I have an interview down there, and suddenly he’s all sad that I might be moving farther away from him.

Excuse me? Couldn’t we pursue the type of relationship we have now (e-mail buddies) even if I were in Tibet?

I’m so confused.

Ack!

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While I’ve never tried speed dating, I must admit to being fairly fascinated at the whole concept. If you’ve tried it, I’d love to hear about your experiences. I decided to do some research on the topic today and here is what I found!

8minuteDating is the Fast, Fun and Guaranteed way for single people to meet – live and in person. At 8minuteDating events, you’ll have 8 one-on-one dates that last 8 minutes each. If both parties are interested in meeting again, we provide contact information so they can set up another date. We guarantee you’ll meet someone you want to see again or your next event is on us!
Amazingly, over 98% of our customers tell us that they enjoy our events, over 90% meet someone who they want to see again, and over 60% of the time the interest is mutual, leading to a second date. Compare those odds to going to a bar!

What you get at an 8minuteDating event:

1. A fast, fun, safe and comfortable way to meet people.
2. A room full of eligible singles who want to meet someone like you.
3. An enjoyable evening of conversation.
4. 8 great dates in 1 fun night.
5. Time to meet anyone who catches your eye during the mix and mingle periods.
6. Complimentary appetizers and a chance to win extra prizes (at most events).
7. Our Guarantee: Meet someone you want to see again or your next event is free!
8. Maybe… the love of your life.

Speed dating

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Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process or dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry.^[1][2][3] “SpeedDating”, as a single word, is a registered trademark of Aish HaTorah. “Speed dating”, as two separate words, is often used as a generic term for similar events.

The first speed-dating event took place at Pete’s Café in Beverly Hills in late 1998.^[1] Soon afterward, several commercial services began offering secular round-robin dating events across the United States. By 2000, speed dating had really taken off, perhaps boosted by its portrayal in shows such as Sex and the City as something that glamorous people did. Supporters argue that speed dating saves time, as most people decide if they are romantically compatible very quickly, and first impressions are often permanent.

Organization

Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short “dates”, usually lasting from 3 to 8 minutes depending on the organization running the event. At the end of each interval, the organizer rings a bell or clinks a glass to signal the participants to move on to the next date. At the end of the event participants submit to the organizers a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Contact information cannot be traded during the initial meeting, in order to reduce pressure (especially on women) to accept or reject a suitor to their face.

These events typically require advance registration, often an online prepayment by credit card. However, they may accept a few walk-ins when needed to balance the gender ratio. Some services make use of waitlists when signing up to strive for exactly the same number of men and women, while others have a more “party” atmosphere and only aim for an approximately matching number.

There are many speed dating events now in the UK and the US. Many of these simply specify an age range for ladies and gentlemen; sometimes a slightly older range is specified for men. On the other hand, many organizers offer niche events such as nights for graduates only, gays and lesbians, older men with younger women and vice versa, book lovers, ethnic events, and of course the original niche event, religious affiliation.

[edit] Advantages

Proponents of speed dating cite its advantages as:

• It allows singles to meet a large number of new people in one easy event.
• It is especially efficient for busy professionals or those that have limited social circles.
• It levels the playing field for men and women.
• Men do not have to play their traditional role as the aggressor—both men and women are forced to meet and interact.
• The structured interaction helps shy people to overcome their inhibitions.
• The time limit ensures that no one is stuck talking to someone longer than they wish.
• The matching process occurs after the event, ensuring people do not have to face rejection in person. This helps avoid awkward situations and uneasy interactions between participants during the event.
• Participants are almost always guaranteed that the people they meet are single or at least looking. This is generally more difficult to discern when one goes to a bar or a club.
• It is something that women who like to go out in groups can do together.^[4]
• Participants are usually grouped in their preferred age range.
• It is cost efficient. Speed dating is essentially numerous dates for the price of one.

[edit] Compared to bars

• There is no need for an opening pick-up line or a wingman to approach someone in order to initiate a chat
• No one person can monopolize chatting with another person, i.e. every guy has an equal opportunity and amount of time allotted to chat with every girl

[edit] Compared to clubs

• There is no need to be skilled in dancing in order to initiate contact
• Clubs usually play loud music which makes chatting difficult

[edit] Criticisms and disadvantages

Critics of speed dating claim:

• It reinforces first impressions, which may not be reliable indicators of long-term compatibility.
• It tends to put less extroverted subjects at a disadvantage.
• Participants who have uneasiness or animosity towards each other are still forced to politely chat with each other in the time allotted. For example, if a participant has already rejected another individual in a previous speed dating event, they are still forced to awkwardly mingle with each other during their speed dating round.
• It provides only superficial knowledge of another person due to the short time available for introductions.
• Feedback / gratification is delayed. Participants normally have to wait a day or two to get the results of a match. In other social events, there is almost instant result; usually with the girl giving her number out to a guy.
• The traditional speed dating model fails to match participants in any meaningful way.

Despite these criticisms, speed dating continues to grow in popularity.

[edit] Scientific research

There have been several studies of the round-robin dating systems themselves, as well as studies of interpersonal attraction that are relevant to these events. Other studies found speed-dating data useful as a way to observe individual choices among random participants.

[edit] First impressions

A 2005 study at the University of Pennsylvania of a speed dating event found that most people made their choices within the first three seconds of meeting. Furthermore, issues such as religion, previous marriages, and smoking habits were found to play much less of a role than expected. ^{[5] [6]}

A 2006 study in Edinburgh, Scotland showed that 45% of the women participants in a speed-dating event and 22% of the men had come to a decision within the first 30 seconds. It also found that dialogue concerning travel resulted in more matches than dialogue about films.^[7]

[edit] Unconscious preferences

Malcolm Gladwell’s book on split-second decision-making, Blink, introduces two professors at Columbia University who run speed-dating events. Drs. Sheena Iyengar and Raymond Fisman found, from having the participants fill out questionnaires, that what people said they wanted in an ideal mate did not match their unconscious preferences.^{[8] [9]}

[edit] Olfaction and the MHC

A 1995 study at the University of Bern showed that women appear to be attracted to the smell of men who have different MHC profiles from their own, and that oral contraceptives reversed this effect.^[10]

The MHC is a region of the human genome involved with immune function. Because parents with more diverse MHC profiles would be expected to produce offspring with stronger immune systems, dissimilar MHC may play a role in sexual selection.

A speed “date” lasting several minutes should be long enough for the MHC hypothesis to come into play, provided the participants are seated close enough together.

[edit] Olfaction and pheromones

The TV newsmagazine 20/20 once sent both a male and a female set of twins to a speed dating event. One of each set was wearing pheromones, and the ones wearing pheromones received more matches^[11].

[edit] Age and height preference

A 2006 study at the University of Essex and the IZA in Bonn ^[12] into the relative effects of preference versus opportunity in mate selection showed, while concluding that opportunity was more important than preference, that a woman’s age is the single most important factor determining demand by men. Although it is less important for men, age is still a highly significant factor determining demand by women.

The same study found that a man’s height had a significant impact upon his desirability, with a reduction in height causing a decrease in desirability at the rate of 5% per inch.

[edit] Selectivity

Studies of speed dating events generally show more selectivity among women than among men. For instance, the Penn study reported that the average man was chosen by 34% of the women and the average woman was chosen by 49% of the men.^[5]

Sounds fun, no? I dare you to try it!

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Found a great article by Joy Huber…Read on!

Dating Someone with Children

When should you meet the kids? Who disciplines them? How much time to do spend together?

© Joy Huber

Jul 1, 2006

Are you dating someone who has children from a previous relationship? Are you re-entering dating with your own children from a previous relationship?

If children are part of your family, or part of the family of someone you’re dating, there are unique things to be considered.

First, how soon do you meet the children or introduce someone to your children? How old are the children in question? How long you have been dating? How serious is the relationship?

Most children form attachments quite easily and then are hurt if that new person and the attachment goes away. So a word of caution when deciding to introduce children to someone you’ve been seeing: shield them as long as possible or until you’re quite sure the relationship has a long-term future.

Secondly, something very important many single-parents don’t discuss and need to is who has the authority to discipline the kids and how?

Finally, it’s important to incorporate the children into dates or activities so they feel a part of the group and don’t resent the new mate. It’s also important the adults have some alone time to forge their bond and that they’re not always with the children.

As divorce has become more and more prevalent, there are a lot more single-parents in the dating market. Many things have to be considered in this new dating relationship.

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The HPV vaccine is recommended for 11-12 year-old girls, and can be given to girls as young as 9. The vaccine is also recommended for 13-26 year-old girls/women who have not yet received or completed the vaccine series.

These recommendations have been proposed by the ACIP—a national group of experts that advises the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) on vaccine issues. These recommendations are now being considered by CDC.

Why is the HPV vaccine recommended for such young girls?
Ideally, females should get the vaccine before they are sexually active. This is because the vaccine is most effective in girls/women who have not yet acquired any of the four HPV types covered by the vaccine. Girls/women who have not been infected with any of those four HPV types will get the full benefits of the vaccine.